You let her out a bit, you let her play and you try not to be too jealous or too pushy. After all, she's not yours to keep. She has her own thoughts.. that is until someone comes along and phucks them up.

It starts innocently enough - your girlfriend meets another guy, say at a coffee shop. Nothing big - guys talk to her all day long, so what's another goof ball trying to play nice...?!

But this guy won't let go. He keeps talking to her, 'so what do you?' He asks. Being the friendly girl she is, 'I'm a hairdresser.'

PERFECT - he thinks to himself. He continues, 'Oh really? I'm looking for a new stylist.'

She's just starting out - she's building a client base so, 'Here's my card' AND THERE IT IS.

A few days later, the 2 of you are home and say around 7:09 PM her phone rings. 'Oh hey Costa, sure we can make an appointment ...tomorrow at noon, see you then.'

Great sweetheart, you made a new client. Where'd you meet him? Coffee Shop... is it okay that he's calling you at 7PM on a Sunday night?

You suddenly hear a loud crash against your window... you whip back the curtain and there on the ground - a dead vulture. Ahh yes... they are beginning to circle.

They become friends. Why, how do I know they are only friends? She told me of course. In fact, when he invites her out for coffee, he tells her, 'bring your boyfriend.'

Now this son of a bitch knows full well that you would have any interest in going out for coffee with your girlfriend and some 'guy she just met.' So he asks, JUST TO APPEAR as if he has no ulterior motive.

Then the next time he sees her, he happens to have a book for her... you know, because he knows her so well.

What are you to do? You tell her how you feel. You tell her that you don't think it's appropriate he call or give her gifts and you leave it at that.

But there are problems in the relationship, problems he senses and works on. He chips away. She gets confused. He has all the qualities that you 'suddenly' don't have. After time, there's no more that you can do. You watch her continue on accepting the happiness that you can longer provide her.

Here's the thing - if she's going to wander or get confused early in a relationship when times are tough, she's going to wander and get confused in 10 years, or in 15 years. It's part of her character. It's in her history. If she's the 'leaver' in all relationships, she's going to be the same way in yours.