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hey, im a guy with a question, ever heard of the friend zone, (you get to know a girl and never go
past just friends with that girl) anyway, i need to know how to go past this zone, because every
girl ive ever met and she liked me back, ive never been more then just friends. I AM THE FRIEND ZONE. anyway all i need is to know how to go farther...

Don't we all?  Growing up, I always thought that it was possible to 'turn fat into muscle’ Every diet pill, workout regime, exercise video...all promising to help overweight people turn their blubber into firm muscle mass.  What I've learned is that fat and muscle are 2 entirely different entities all together; much like friends and boyfriends, you can't turn one into the other.  

For example: After a breakup, 'Let's be friends'.  Here's the thing, if you're going to be friends, you don't actually have to say it, it just happens.  But to plan it out by saying, 'let's be friends' rarely works.  

What's meant by 'turning fat into muscle', is lose one, gain the other.  'They' don't actually mean transforming one into the other.  That said, you can not become their friend.  Not at first, not at your age.  They can, 'like you' which can turn into 'really liking you' turning into, 'loving you' and as you grow older you learn how to become good friends and lovers and all the other shite.  

But in your situation, if they like you as a friend or like a 'brother' (that one always killed me). So what you need to do is, make yourself less available.  Be the 'bad boy'.  I always suffered from being too nice or always around... too accessible.  Not saying become an ass.  If you're a nice guy, then you're stuck with being a nice guy...but that doesn't mean you can't be a little more of a mystery.  I got tons of chicks in High School and College, but never really the hot and sexy ones... Now, it's different and the only thing I modified in my behavior was the amount of crap I tell them within the first 3 months.  If they're busy, I don't make a fuss and I let them call me.  (Or try to anyway)

You may have blown your shot with the girls in your present life, but the ones you're going to meet next week, try being a little less effusive.  In fact, even with the girls you’re hanging out with now...start being around less.  Don't tell them things either like, 'you're so pretty' don't pay them any compliments.  The fact that you are talking to her indicates that you're interested.  No need in going overboard and telling her what every other guy is telling her...

Basically don't give in too much.  Grow a pair.  Good luck.  

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