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"Hello, I really like this girl who is a grade younger than me. I see her in my lunch period. she looks or glances at me 10 times a day during lunch, i look at her a lot. my friend found out that i like her and sat with her. he told me to come over and i did.

i walked over slowly and she was turning her head the other way and was very shy. when i sat she was shy and didnt speak at all. and her friends were askin me questions and she was just starin at me. im shy as hell. but i maintained a good attitude, tried to be confident and relaxed. she doesnt know anything about me and i only know her name cuz of her friends.
i tried talkin to her but she didnt reply and was smiling the whole time, i felt like shit. she left and went to other tables talking to her other friends about me soon the whole lunch room found out that i like her. i felt bad for myself while she was gone, her friend wanted me to call her and i got her number, but i dont feel certain that i should call, cuz she herself didnt give it to me and she doesnt know anything me, only my name.

so its the weekend, and ive been thinking of her and if i should call her, i do not know what to talk about if i approach her on phone or in person. tomorrow it'll be skool, and i do not know what to do, can u help?"

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So did you finally call her?  Sorry for the lag in responding.  I was hoping Mircea could answer your question, but she's off in Russia filming some movie, and the Internet isn't too reliable over there to say the least; it’s 2 kids holding 2 tin can attached by a string...

First off, don't feel bad for yourself.  Trying to land a chick is always a tough thing and can certainly feel humiliating at times. You're not alone.  Just learn how to deal with those feelings gracefully so when you get older you'll be a pro at getting rejected...don't get me wrong, learning to deal with rejection is one of the biggest keys to success on any level. 

Did you have a 'KICK ME' sign on your back, or any weird growth on your nose? Was there any obvious reason she'd be looking at you so often?  A girl will only look at you for a couple of reasons, either she needs to memorize your face when detailing it to a police sketch artist, or she finds you interesting. 

If she finds you interesting based on your looks, then you have a 'leg up' on the situation.  At this point, it's yours blow.  So being cool and confident is definitely the way you want to go.  So from what you are telling me, you've done everything by the book.  Now what.?

I'd hold off on calling her.  Awkward silence is brutal, and on the phone it's even worse.  You need to get to know her a bit more before calling her.  That's why email and text are perfect for such an occasion.  It's not too stalker like and she can filter your emails if she thinks you're too weird, which is a lot easier than changing phone numbers. 

She's obviously quite shy, and being around all her friends when you sat down with her probably didn't help her that much.  Slip a note in her locker with a simple 'hey', include your email address and see if she responds.  Better yet, text your email.  Find out a bit about her from her friends.  What music she likes... so that you can start with, 'I hear you like Timbaland blah blah' Find out a few breezy pop culture tid bits about her and start with that. 

You haven't blown anything yet.  Unless of course you've already called her without waiting for my brilliant advice...

Good luck.

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