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Im 17, currently in Yr12 and i've had a strong crush on a girl since a met her at the beginning of the year. The only problem is that since that time we've become best friends and i think it could be past the stage where i can ask her out.

She always strongly flirts with me but she does it also with her other best male friend so i dont know how to interpret it. i tried using him as an example of what would happen to me if i asked her out by asking what she would say if he did. she replied "it would be like dating my brother" my problem is that i really like her but i dont want to ruin what we already have.

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Hey Man,
 
Thanx for your email.  I know your situation all too well.  The trouble is, I only knew about it AFTER the fact.  She's a flirt eh?  That's always dangerous.  But see if she maybe flirts with you longer, or in a different manner.  Does she touch your arm when she laughs...does she make any contact (other than eye contact).
 
You may have missed the window.  If she starts thinking of you too much as a friend or buddy... then you've lost that 'dangerous sexy' appeal... as she said 'it's like dating my brother' 
 
When girls get older, they'll realize that they want and need, cute, funny and sensitive...but in high school, all chicks seems to love is, rebellion.  They want something or someone to piss of their parents. 
 
My advice to you, hmm... do you see her all the time?  The reason I'm asking is, if you don't see her all the time and your friends don't hang out etc.  Then you can certainly try to make your move.  If she rejects you, then no big deal... she's not in any of your classes etc.
 
BUT, if you do see her all the time and your friends all know each other, then I wouldn't do anything.  'Cause if you get rejected, it'll be a lot harder to save face. 
 
Look at your situation as a cost benefit analysis (romantic isn't it).  What's the worst that can happen if you make your move, Vs. the best thing that can happen.
 
Everyone gets rejected.  Some of course more than others.  But it's a part of life, don't fear rejection or you'll find yourself constantly 'paralyzed' with fear and apprehension.  Besides, it's all in the way you ask her..or in the way you make your move.  Don't be nervous and if she does say no... NEVER EVER make a big deal of it in front of her.
 
EXAMPLE: 
you: 'hey susan, wanna go to a movie'
her: 'um, no thank you'
 
you: 'okay, cool we'll talk later'
 
If you don't make it a big deal, then guess what...it's not a big deal.
 
Hope this helps.
 
SM

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