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I have just recently by told by my fiance that she wants to see other people.  I am her first boyfriend, so she feels like she is missing out on something.  Should I let something like this happen, or should I try to prevent it.  I am not sure that if I let this go through, our
relationship will ever be the same.

Hey Man,

Thanx for your email.  The unfortunate thing is, she's already made up her mind and there's really nothing you can do about it; you certainly can't prevent it.  The last thing you want to do is build up any kind of resentment, either your towards her or vice versa. 

The only thing you can do is be honest with yourself and with her.  Let her know how you feel about the situation - but chances are she already knows.  So, now you have a choice, do you stick around or do you go out and do the same thing? 

My suggestion is, let her be.  You know that gay expression, 'If you love something let it free...' It true.  Your relationship will never be the same again, but you gotta give her credit for being honest with you.  She could have easily gone out and phucked around behind your back, but she didn't, so that says something about her character.

Don't be angry with her, it'll just push her away.  Be happy that she's going through this now and not in a couple years after you've been married and maybe even have a kid. 

Be confident in who you are.  There are a lot of complete dicks out there and she's going to find them only to realize that you weren't so bad after all.  And if she doesn't realize it, then be happy that you got out while you were young. 

I know it sucks, but you gotta be confident and have a back bone.  She's being honest with you, so you must do the same with her.  Be respectful, but always look after yourself first. 

Hope this helps.

SM

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