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Reader: I have a guy problem..well like everyone does. Do u think that girls should be the ones to initiate the first move? becuz i always hear once a girl does that then the guys think it ain't worth, but it seems like all the guys i meet always want me to make the first move, so i'm not sure about that. Another thing do u believe that if God made two people meant to be, that they'll eventually be together? or is really nothing going to happen becuz either won't take action?

SM: Well given your shitty lack of grammar, I'd say you have more than just a 'guy problem'... Please never ever use the word, 'ain't' If you keep talking like your were born in a trailer, before you know it, you'll be taken full advantage of. But then again, you may like that.

Anyway, should girls make the first move? I tell you, it would sure as hell make it a lot easier for all of us. The problem is, once you do make the first move, the guy is going to think you're easy. When in fact you're simply trying to make it easier for the both of you... and 'easier' is exactly what the guy is thinking.

Given that, if you are going to make the first move - don't go shoving your tongue down his throat or anything perverse. At the end of your date or whatever, just give him a kiss on the cheek and say goodnight. Or, if you're walking around with him, hold his hand. Just do something 'light'. Let him know that you're okay with being around him and that you're giving him the green light. But by 'green' I don't mean drop down on your knees... It means, don't worry - I won't reject you if you ask me out again.

We (guys) just need some reassurance that you're a little more into us than all the other guys we see you chatting to at school or at work.

If you're worried about the guy not being into you after you've made the first move - then don't make the first move. Don't make any move except in the opposite direction. You don't need anybody making you feel insecure. So if this guy seems like he's only after one thing and NOTHING else... then walk on.

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