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Congratulations, after months of pining and trying to get "her" back, you finally did...so what happens next?

You loved hanging out, but the relationship went pear shaped and for the best, the 2 of you broke up, leaving you confused and hurt.  Months go by, and then suddenly you realize how much you miss them.

You begin your relentless pursuit of getting them back.  By doing so, you leave your pride and dignity behind...and go full force.  You've done everything necessary.  You've given space and time and finally, they call you back ...but this time not to tell you to phuck yourself, but to maybe meet for coffee or whatever.

Next thing you know, coffee turns into a movie, into going for dinner, into making dinner...and like you had hoped you start seeing each other again.

And it's not like before.  You really do appreciate them more, there are no regrets, no buyer's remorse, and you’re truly happy your 'plan' paid off.  You're truly happy only because now, you are willing to accept less. 

Because of the effort and patience you put into getting them back, you're now gun shy and afraid that any wrong move may scare them off.  Because remember, they too are taking a risk by getting back together with you...so in fact they are a bit gun shy.  So in fact, you do have to put up with clamming up in order to get your footing.  Without losing your self respect.

Because you've shown your hand in your efforts to get them back, they have been given the green light to treat you a little more like crap than you would normally tolerate.  Also, knowing the person as well as you do, you hope to work through it.

Maybe they cancel a date 10 minutes after they were supposed to be at your door...or maybe they aren't even home when you were supposed to pick them up.  Strangely however, you find yourself putting up with it.  Possibly because you want your efforts to have not been in vein.  Or maybe you're willing to put up with now coming in second...because from here on in, you always will. 

That is until the day you realize that the things you want aren't always the things you should have.

But your intention was never to get too serious, it was to spend whatever time the other person afforded you.
If you find something that makes you happy only some of the time, then the trick is to only spend that 'some time' with them and not to worry about the 'what if's'

The worst thing we can do for ourselves is lose site of that which makes us happy and that's the goal right?

 

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